Someone very close to me has the pattern of Aspergers Syndrome. He’s obsessed with rules.
This is great when it comes to managing behavior. When managing behaviors, we use the system of rewards and punishment.
In it’s simplest form, you reward good behavior and punish (or ignore) bad behavior.
In the world of “ABA,” or Advanced Behavioral Analysis, the whole focus is behavior. ABA is used especially in children with autism or on the autism spectrum.
But what about Love?
Is true heart-love a behavior? How can one teach love?
Any behavior we reinforce with rewards or try to diminish with punishment feeds into the system that controls pleasure and pain in our brains. It’s part of our survival wiring that is unaware of the soul, or higher self.
The heart is deeper. It’s not part of that process.
Imagine Mother Theresa serving the poor for decades. For what reward? Being poor? Not sure if she has a place to eat or sleep? Going to heaven? Recognition?
It’s an internal drive, a deep awareness of her heart-purpose to help and serve in her own way. We could list hundreds of artists, thinkers, authors and presidents with this same drive.
Where does that come from?
We can simply say that it comes from God, the Divine, the Force, the heart, or the soul. We know what it is, we don’t fully understand it, but we know it’s there.
My question is: How do we awaken the Force of God in the hearts of our children?
We are so focused on behavior and obedience. What about the heart?
No guilt. No reward of heaven. No punishment of hell. No threats of taking away your iphone.
No shame. No feeling sorry for my feelings. No fear of being yelled at.
No rewards, no punishments.
Just love, generated from deep within the heart, feeding directly from the Source of Life, the Divine.
How do we teach THAT?